Comparison kills Creativity

I’m sure you guys are much stronger than me and have never compared yourself to others, right?? I know, we all do it sometimes and its like a burning disease, once it starts it is hard to stop and it really hurts. Its like a weight on your shoulders. Why did they get that gig instead of me? Why is their business thriving and I’m struggling to pay my bills? How can I compete with that? Am I not good enough? We let our thoughts spiral out of control, overthinking at its best as we try to continue to create in this state of insecurity and fear.

Well, after years of doing that myself, I can tell you, its bullshizer. You need to feel your feelings, but after 15 minutes you need to redirect your thoughts. Look up some positive affirmations or just tell your stubborn mind, “I am the only person just like me. I am grateful for my differences and my special abilities and I experience life differently than anyone else so I can’t expect to have the same experiences as anyone else. I can create and build beautiful things and I am going to have fun doing it.” Then do it, have fun.

If you are going after something specific, set goals. One small daily goal, another small weekly goal, a large monthly goal, a bigger goal for six months from now and your largest for in one year. Have fun setting your goals and even set one for five years from now. But remember that these goals are not written in stone, if something keeps you from attaining a goal (even yourself, as often happens with me) just rewrite it for the next month. Do not give in to the temptation to spend your time beating yourself up over not meeting a goal. Okay…feel your feelings and take 15 minutes if you need, but then pick your beautiful self up (yes you are all very beautiful), dust yourself off and repeat your positive affirmation. Or just remember that story about the stubborn little train that only made it to the top of the hill by constantly repeating to itself, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can”.